Understand and find creative remedies to overwork

According to Work Life Today, flexibility and overwork are two of the major workforce issues of 2006. With over 33 percent of employees feeling overworked, employees need to find ways to ease the burden on their workers without allowing the costs to skyrocket. Adding work to already overloaded employees is expected to worsen, since it is expected that the workforce is likely to decrease. The added burden of work on employees can cause problems in the balance of life and work for staff members, as they feel more overloaded with work. Also, with the new trends of employees paying for health insurance and having to dress more formally becoming more prominent, employers will have to find other ways to address the issue of balancing work and life for staff members that shoulder the burden of extra work. Knowing why employees feel overworked is the first step in finding inexpensive ways to address the issue. Many managers misunderstand what overwork means to their staff. Even though Expedia reports that 63 percent of workers work more than 40 hours per week, being overworked is not just about the number of hours the person spends at the office. Most often, employees feel overworked due to having too much work to do in a given day or having too many menial versus challenging tasks. The employee that feels overworked can be costly to an employer, because people who are overworked tend to make more mistakes and harbor anger and resentment toward management and co-workers. People who feel overworked can sometimes lose track of important tasks, which then mean missed deadlines and lost clients. Many of the issues associated with overwork come from finding a way to balance the burden of work with the things people need for everyday living. Today managers are being viewed as the gatekeepers to work/life balance, since many people continue to feel overwhelmed by the load of work in both their professional and personal lives. With over 26 percent of employees refraining from taking vacation or sick days because they worry about the amount of work that will be piled in their inboxes when they return, it is no longer just about the benefits like insurance or vacation time that appeal to the employee. Potential new hires and current employees want to know that the company cares about them as people, not as a worker-bee. This means that employers need to be more creative in how they approach the feeling of overwork so that employees are more productive and satisfied in both their professional and personal lives. So what are some ways that employers can fulfill this new role of Gatekeeper? While some companies are offering incentives for people to take vacations, many companies are turning to trainings and personal concierge services to assist their employees to feel less overworked. For instance, one company decided that they wanted staff members to begin dressing more professionally. So they offered people trainings on how to put together professional outfits. Another company offered a company that would assist people in shopping for professional clothing. Trainings can also help people learn how to manage their time better, how to use a wardrobe for success, and even how to succeed in upward mobility. However, the most recent, and low-cost, trend has companies using a corporate concierge service that will take care of the little things so that the employees focus will be on the big things. For some people, taking care of the grocery shopping, clothing purchases, birthday presents, and more can allow their focus to be directed at work. People have found that they can focus more on their work when someone else is taking care of picking up the dry cleaning or getting their oil changed. According to BusinessKnowHow, overwork is one of the top reasons why many people get frustrated and leave their jobs. Whether you are looking to retain the employees you have or you are looking to attract quality new hires, one of the issues you will need to address is overwork. When employees see that you are trying to meet their needs and make their overall lives better, you will find that production will increase and an overall sense of well being will fill your office. Using trainings, incentives, and personal concierge services can bring about the best in your staff without costing you a fortune.

Now ness . the zen state of mind

"Now-ness" is the state of ideal attention. That is, it is a state of being where all that exists is the present moment, without any thought of past or future. It is paying total attention to what you are doing in the moment that you are doing it. If you are eating for example, just eat. If you are reading, just read. If you are eating and you are thinking about your bills, or what is on television tonight, then you are not in a state of now-ness. If you are reading and you are not totally concentrating on the act of reading then again, you are not in the present. Regardless of what you happen to be doing, if you are thinking about something else, then you are not attentive and not in a state of now-ness When you are not attentive, not here and now, your present peace of mind may be disturbed by some oncoming future event for no good reason. For example: Remember when you were in high school and you had a very important test coming? It was Friday and the test was to take place on Monday. That night you went to a party and enjoyed the evening for several hours when it happened! What happened? Suddenly, thoughts about the impending test darted across your mind and your night was ruined. You tried not to think about the test but to no avail, your present happiness was destroyed by the thoughts of a future event. Understand that if I were to ask you how you feel, I am not asking how you felt yesterday or how you believe you might feel tomorrow. I am asking you how you feel at this very moment. If you were to answer me by saying, "at the present moment I feel fine," then you are fine because now is all that exists. Tomorrow will always be beyond your grasp and yesterday is forever gone. All you have is now. It is the only reality.

Addressing anger management for kids in creative ways

It can be easy to loose your patience when dealing with an especially unruly or angry child, but in doing so you are really just reinforcing the child's angry behavior. You can use some fun ways to get the child to see the excessive nature of their own anger, instead of reacting with anger Although in especially heated situations this may be a struggle, the faster you can get the child to release their anger, the quicker you can diffuse the situation and have an efficient conversation. Contrary to anger management for adults, anger management for kids is less restrictive. With Kids, it is possible to use more imaginative techniques. First step: Point Out the Obvious If your child is reacting in a ridiculously angry way, point it out calmly. You should not tease your child about it, but make them understand how silly it is to rave and rant. Pretend their words are blowing you over or make an exaggerated face of surprise in return. Make your message clear, but your reaction light hearted. Because kids don't have the same social experience as adults to pick up on small nuances, you don't need to be subtle in addressing anger management for kids. If their anger doesn't break down yours, you will be able to break down the walls the child has erected around their emotions. Second step: Create Space If the child is still not responding to your efforts even if you've reacted light-heartedly and calmly, there is no harm in expressing your inability to deal with the child in their angry state, and then just walking away. If the child runs screaming after you after using this technique, calmly remind he or she that you can only speak with them when they have calmed down, and do not react to them until their anger has subsided. You'll know that you have been effective in driving home your message if the child understands that they have to work past their anger in order to get your attention. If you are consistent in your message, the child will learn quickly how to cope with his or her own anger. If you can remember how frustrating it felt to be a child and to want to be heard, you'll hold the key to anger management for kids. In the case of anger management for kids, it is less a symptom of underdevelopment, as it may be in adults, and more a lesson that has not yet been learned. The best teachers are not necessarily the strictest. When dealing with anger management for kids, remember that the best teachers are the ones who can see past the child's surface reaction to the little person inside who's begging for help.

It takes a selfish person to stay poor

Part One Yeah, I know, I just said it... It takes a selfish person to stay poor.. Not be poor but stay poor. Yes, a lot of people tend to think of poor people as kind, and rich people as greedy and selfish, but the truth of the matter is the longer you stay poor, the more selfish you truly are. Let's think about this before you burn me at the stake for calling you selfish. So you are poor and struggling and you run out of money right before payday…One paycheck from being homeless as they would say…You think only about yourself and your most immediate family members…How will you eat, how will you pay rent, how will you get to the next payday? Now occasionally you express your kindness by helping one person here or there, as long as it doesn't stop you from eating. But really - are you changing the world? NO. For the most part your everyday actions are pretty selfish; thinking about you and your kids. You aren't thinking about starving people in Africa - after all there are starving people in your own house! Yet rich people are selfish and greedy, right? Some people may give a donation to the causes, but for many people they need a donation themselves. Now look at people who have more money so they aren't struggling – Yeah, rich people. Have you ever stopped to think how many diseases their money is curing?...How many people's lives their money is saving...Nope, because they are the greedy ones… My daughter asked me about this one day. She said ‘Mom, why would you say that it takes a selfish person to stay poor?’ I said ‘Okay, think about it for a sec. If you are poor who can you help? If you cannot buy yourself food, who can you help? If you don't know if you will have a place to live soon, who can you help? She said ‘no one’. I said ‘exactly’...We live in America, the land where there are one million new Millionaire households every year…it takes someone who is really all about themselves to stay poor. Well, what about Mother Teresa? Well Mother Teresa was backed by the Catholic church, who were multi-millionaires, and so really she helped millions of people through money from the Catholic church so really she wasn't poor...If all she had to work with was a paycheck would she have made the same impact on the world? You can say yes, but the real answer is no. She could help millions because she could afford to spend her time doing that…she wasn't worried about the money to help them, or how she would eat.. it was all taken care of for her. The world is waiting for you to make an impact on it. You can’t help anyone if you cannot help yourself, so why don't you decide today that you will make a greater contribution to mankind? Do you plan to stay poor ? This is a multi part article - Please visit breathingprosperity for the continuation

Gratitude is the key to abundance

Truly I tell you, gratitude is the key to abundance. For if you are grateful, surely you will experience an increase in all the good things you feel you are deserving in Life. Gratitude does not come from a “this is too good to be true” feeling. Nor does it come from feelings of lack and desperation, such that you are dependent upon external factors as if the world owes you anything. Gratitude comes from a realisation, a proper understanding of things, that goes as deep and as true as that of a mother’s love for her child. Thankfulness cannot be faked or forced. You can train a child to say “Thank You” when he is given something good, but you cannot cause him to truly experience deep feelings of gratitude and appreciation in his heart. Perhaps this is why grateful people have always been in short supply. I am referring to the truly grateful, not the masses that only profess gratefulness by the tongue but do not possess it in the depths of their hearts. However, like any other tendencies, true gratefulness can be slowly and steadily instilled in one’s being by consistent and diligent observation and practice. How does abundance come into the picture of gratitude? To give a weird but vivid analogy, imagine a person living in a dark, claustrophobic and almost airtight pod. Let’s say, for the sake of this analogy, she is able to live solely on air. Her only supply of air streams in from tiny almost imperceptible holes puncturing the surface of the pod. These holes also happen to bring in a little light into her pod. Abundance is the virtually infinite supply of air that exists as a plenum outside her pod. Gratitude is the hole that punctures the pod, allowing some air and some light to enter it. As she lives and breathes in the pod, she is able to notice the tiny holes that have been sustaining her throughout her life. As she has been paying attention to only a fixed area of tiny holes, she thinks those are the only holes that exist to nourish her with much needed air, when in truth, tiny holes dot the entire surface area of the pod. Every day, she lives a life of struggle, constantly panting and heaving and gasping for air, punctuated only occasionally when she musters the courage and effort to place herself close to an area of holes and really suck in the air from outside the pod. Let’s say she is not likely to suffer from asphyxiation because she is able to survive on very minimal amounts of air. One day, she experiences a breakthrough. During one of those rare moments in which she gets the strength to really suck in air from one of the holes on the pod, she notices that her suction had caused the hole to expand in size, thus, the amount of air that streams in increases. At first, she ignores this phenomenon. But when the effect happens for a second, and a third time, she sets out to turn her hypothesis into a fact. Soon she discovers that there are actually more holes dotting the surface of the pod than she had realised, because of the increased amount of light that enters due to the increasing size of the hole. So she experiments with the other holes dotting the pod, sucking in the outside air with all her might, until eventually, she has a couple of big holes on her pod that bring in really huge amounts of air and light. Day by day, she continues this new hole-expanding effort of hers. One day, because of the increasing sizes of the holes and the number of holes that have expanded, the structural integrity of the once solid pod diminishes, and she finds that she can easily, almost effortlessly, rip apart the pod as if it were made of paper - hence, finally liberating herself and transcending into a whole new world of abundance. Bizarre as this analogy might seem, most of us live like the girl in the pod. There are tiny streams of abundance entering our self-imposed imprisoned life. All it takes is our awareness of these sources of sustenance and abundance and to expand our awareness of them, thus increasing our prosperity in all areas of Life. Everything is an asset. Are you sitting on them or are you finding ways and means of fashioning those assets into materials that you would use to design the life of your dreams?

The power of belief

The term baggage is definitely an overused pop psychology term in our culture. We use it to describe the excesses and useless junk we carry around with us from our worst childhood memories to when our romantic relationships went bad to all manner of past problems we can't seem to shake or get rid of. It's as if we've packed away tightly all of these sorrows and frustrations and grief and resentments into metaphorical suitcases which we continue to carry around with us and which continue to define us and impact our belief systems through the lens of what we believe about the world. That sucks, right? I mean, what a huge bummer. FORTUNATELY for you, you have come to the right place and this baggage can be checked and/or unpacked and the useless items we have carried along for so long can be discarded. It's easier to repair than it might seem on the surface. My first suggestion is to use try some tapping. If you've never heard me speak about this, stay tuned for an upcoming article on the subject. Additionally, try this: Have an exploratory conversation with yourself, maybe on paper, maybe in your head, and focus on the following questions. What is your belief about persuasion? What are your beliefs about selling and sales and prospecting? What do you believe about closing the deal? These questions are designed to help you set up the frame of how you view persuasion. It is so important that you start this analytic process because only by defining it will you be able to change it (if necessary). 'The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.' - Frank Lloyd Wright. As a persuader, what do you believe? When you respond to the questions I recommend you start your statements in the following way: 'A persuader is someone who. . . A sales person is someone who. .. A prospector is someone who. . .' and write them all out explaining in detail your response to each question. It's not as easy as it seems and at times you might need to wrestle with it. If your answers are negative, you are impacting your clients with your own baggage attached to persuasion and sales. This is something that, as a sales person, you need to get clear on. There is not a whole lot you can do about it until you get clear. You will consistently be sending people negative intentions and therefore blocking sales and productivity. When we have our beliefs about what we are, what we are aiming to accomplish, what our desired outcomes are, etc., we're clear and open to the process of persuasion. Anton Chekhov wrote, 'Man is what he believes.' Do you believe that persuasion is manipulation? Do you believe that sales people are high pressure? If that is the other than conscious frame you have in place, you are doomed to fail. Start to reframe this immediately. Remember this: You are what you believe.